From Grief to Gratitude

There’s theme that’s reverberating for me that’s not only prompted by this time of the year. It’s not the consumer madness that overtakes people on Black Friday– it’s gratitude.   Is it reverberating for you?

appreciateAs with most things in life, grief is one more thing we have move through and time alone isn’t enough.  Each of us has to find our own way to move through our grief.

For me 2012 has been a year featuring  impermanence, as  I lost my mother, my brother and a close friend.  While I grieved those losses I created a playlist and listened to inspirational spiritual  music. I compiled lists of what I appreciated most about my relationships with them and I included them in three long love letters they will never receive.  Focusing on what I was grateful for cleared the fog and brought what matters to the forefront.

Having a grateful heart is the true spirit of Thanksgiving, and this season is the perfect opportunity to thank everyone who has impacted your life in one form or another.

Gratitude is a magical potion that dissolves jealousy, greed, fear, unhappiness and other dis-ease’s of the ego. Gratitude is an emotion that opens our hearts and raises us above negativity, worry, and doubt. — Gratitude is the Opposite of Fear

Give thanks for “negative” things in your life. There’s always two ways to look at something. Many times we think of something as negative — it’s stressful, harmful, sad, unfortunate, difficult. But that same thing can be looked at in a more positive way. Giving thanks for those things is a great way to remind yourself that there is good in just about everything. Problems can be seen as opportunities to grow, to be creative. — Why Living a Life of Gratitude Can Make You Happy

 Gratitude HD – Moving Art™

A Moving Art original short. This inspirational video was well responded at TED conferences and filmmaker Louie Schwartzberg motivates those around him as happiness is revealed. Spoken word and music montage created and composed by Gary Malkin. Narration written and spoken by Brother David Steindl-Rast.

Go Gratitude Experiment

I joined the Go Gratitude Experiment and embarked upon 42 day Gratitude journey.  I will receive a series of 42 short, inspiring and instructional “knew views on Gratitude” by email, one day at a time, over a 42 day period. I intend to share my journey with you readers. So if you’re interested then why not take this journey too?’

Inspirational Reading:

Gratitude is one aspect of positivity that can be practiced any time, any place.  To make it a habit, just spend 5 minutes each morning or evening reflecting upon and appreciating all the gifts in your life.  Deeply feel a sense of gratitude, let it permeate your being and shine out.  Then whenever a negative thought arises during the day replace it with a ray of gratitude.  — 101 rays of gratitude

Thanksgiving Week Lesson 1 – How To Embrace What You Already Have
Thanksgiving Week Lesson 2 – How To Let Yourself Give and Receive
Thanksgiving Week Lesson 3 – How To Add a Little Sizzle to Your Relationships

May you, my readers, be richly pleased with a sense of gratitude each and every day of the year.


  1. As a person living with many illnesses, including debilitating depression, I have found gratitude a hard one to do sometimes. But I’ve Always found that when I can get myself into a place where that’s what I focus on then life gets better immediately. It’s amazing. I do “prayers” of thankfulness every day, when I eat, when I look at my loving partner and am so grateful for him in my life, when I look at my beautiful garden, when I look at the world and see its wonders. It helps. I remember I am so lucky despite my troubles. Thank you for posting this and I hope that your journey is a good one. It sounds like it already is. All the best to you. Thanks for stopping by my sites and visiting me. You seem to be an extraordinary woman and I’ll enjoy following your thoughts.

    • Hi Steve,
      Thanks for your visit and your comment. I have suffered from many traumatic events resulting in PTSD and bouts of debilitating depression so I hear you loud and clear. I am a cancer survivor who lives with chronic pain. Those who have not suffered from depression have no idea how hard it is to be grateful when your chemical balance is out of balance and you are virtually debilitated. I trust your journey will be a healthy and happy one. Depressives like you and me consciously make that choice every day and even more than once each day. Best wishes and blessings to you and yours.

      • Hi – I’m not surprised to hear you speak of the suffering you’ve experienced. You’re so right in what you’ve said here. I too have survived cancer and live with chronic pain. Your wisdom seems to come from overcoming much of what you describe. I wanted to tell you that you inspired me to write on this very subject – of remaining thankful when our brains don’t work right. It’s called Why I’m Thankful for My Brain and I thanked you in the post for the inspiration. I love your blog and how you’ve come to such a peaceful space within your struggles. You do inspire many I’m sure. I wish you all the best on your own journey as well.

    • Hello Jerry,
      I was inspired by the video and I’m glad you also found it inspiring. Thank you for sharing your response with me. I’m committed to developing as many strategies for remaining grateful as I can because the connection between experiencing gratitude and happiness are unmistakeable.

  2. I happened to stumble on your blog and sorry to hear about the loss of your loved ones. That is the attitude I am trying to do everyday – be grateful.

    By the way, I signed up now for Go Gratitude. Thanks for sharing this site.


  3. This is a great post and a great video. It is good to be reminded now and then of what we have in life already, and how we are blessed with so many gifts.

    • Hi there,
      It’s been a long time since we connected. In the last year I have scaled back on my online activities. I’m glad you appreciated the video and you’re right – we are blessed.

  4. This post resonates with me, as I’ve also had a year of impermanence, including several losses. Allowing myself to experience and move through the stages of grief without getting stuck, there’s the sticking point. I’m going to check out The Gratitude Experiment, thank you. I hope you had peace during this Thanksgiving weekend.

    • I admit that there were times I was stuck during my grieving process. My mother’s death was an expected one as she had lived a very full life and was in her 80’s. My friend’s death was also expected as he spent 6 years fighting cancer and preparing for his death. My brother’s death was not expected and I did not respond as one would have hoped to respond but I am slowly mending and moving forward. Thanks for your Thanksgiving blessing. May you always be well and happy.

  5. timethief,

    I am sorry for all the grief that has visited you this year. Your insights are a teaching for all of us because, as you point out, we will all experience grief at some point in our lifetime. Knowing how to transform it into love and gratitude is a special gift.

    I’m so grateful to have connected with so early on in my blogging life and for our connection to have survived and thrived. I’ve learned so much for you and count you as one of the most real people in the blogosphere! On the humorous side, I think I can recall just about every theme changes we’ve both been through. :)

    • Dear Sandra,
      I’m so grateful for your frienship.

      My journey through grief to gratitude was a painful one. If anyone has gained from the little I have shared then that makes me happy.

      P.S. Theme change — how did you know? ;)

  6. Thank you for your post today…I’m on a healing quest with a focus on overcoming fear…your words “Gratitude is the Opposite of Fear” really leapt of the page for me. I’ve now signed up for Go Gratitude experiment and feel excited about finding a way forward that resonates with me.

    • Hi Ali,
      It’s good to meet you. I’m glad to know the article I linked to resonated with you. I also hope you enjoy being part of the Go Gratitude project too.

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